i got another confession to make...
I have been sleeping with someone else.
Did that get your attention??
Ellie. Me, Joaquin and Ellie. I need help! The child will not sleep in her crib. Today we went in for Ellie's year checkup (a little late) and I told the doctor about this problem. He said, just let her cry it out, it may take a few days but I would do that. Now, the reason she doesn't sleep in her crib is because Joaquin isn't on board with this. He doesn't want her to suffer. Well, neither do I but I'm about ready to go sleep in the guest room!
So, I need help, suggestions - anything from people who have been in this situation. How did you get your kid to sleep? Did they cry it out until they learned this is the way it is or is there some other method that Joaquin might be willing to go for?
Signed,
Desperate and Overcrowded Bed.
4 comments:
Oh boy...Mark's daughter came to bed with them for the same reason and she stayed there until she was 3. Mark always said Tammy needed it more than Kaitlin.
Does she ever fall asleep in her crib, or do you let her fall asleep anywhere and then try and move her into bed? This is just my opinion, but they should wake up where they went to sleep. It's always best to let them fall asleep in bed so they don't feel like they've been tricked when they wake up. This goes for naps as well as nighttime.
I haven't had the same problem, but I'll tell you what we do at night - routine, routine, routine. First a bath, then jammies, then we brush teeth. We dim the lights, and she finds her favorite puppy to snuggle with while she lays down with me - sometimes Darryl but usually me. Sometimes we sing, sometimes we read, but we lay in the same spot on the couch with the same puppy and blanket on the same pillow every night. These are all special bedtime things, and if any one of them is missing she knows it. After 10 or 15 minutes of relaxing together we move to the bedroom. She'll lay down in bed, we wind up her music box, I close the door behind me, and I don't go back. Its the same every night right down to a good night kiss on the head. She just knows what to expect because it's always been the same. We take her puppy to Julie's every day too, and Julie and I share our routines with one another.
If you don't have a routine, I think you need to establish one. Someone else might tell you differently, but I'm a big fan of the "security blanket" (or puppy in our case.) You'll undoubtedly have a few difficult nights getting into it, but it sounds like you're having those anyway. Whatever you do though, Joaquin needs to decide if bringing her into your bed is what's best for her, or if it's just what's best for him. The longer you keep doing it, the longer it will take to undo it.
Longest posting ever...
It was harder with our first, because of the guilt factor, but we let them cry it out. It only took a few days and it was sad, but everyone including the child was happier in the end. We usually started this at alot younger age.
I dont have kids or anything, but I would suggest LISTENING TO THE DOCTOR!!!....
Joaquin, there is a reason their first name is Doctor
David also cried for 2 hours because he was the oldest when we started it. Zach ended up buying earplugs or listening to headphones while David cried it out because it made him feel too sad to hear him crying. David is a great kid and he still loves us at this point and he has no memory of the sad nights of crying it out, so if we have ruined him in some way, it wasn't from the crying nights. Good Luck! It is definitely is not easy, but you will all be so happy when you all get full nights of sleep!
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